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Boys Don’t Cry – A Rant


I was on Facebook the  other day and I saw a blogger post a question from a reader. The lady had 3 girls and the middle girl has severe middle child syndrome. The mother wanted to know how she could try to get her child beyond that.

OK. Good question. I know there are a lot of kids out there that might have that same issue and I bet a lot of other moms could help. THANKFULLY I have never had to deal with that, I’ll explain a little more about that latter. I want to stay on topic here. ;)

ANYWAY, there was A LOT of advice but I also kept seeing a recurring theme among mothers to boys…… Here is a little taste.

“I tell my middle son to suck it up and quit being a baby.”

“I always say to my boy to quit crying, I thought I only had 2 girls.”

“I tell my son to quit being a sissy.”

REALLY?????? Are you SERIOUS????? What year is it again? Did these mothers just pass through a time warp????

It hurts my heart so much to read that these women actually say these things to their sweet little boys. Telling them that boys aren’t supposed to show their emotions. That they need to, essentially, shut up and deal…. These are CHILDREN!!!! They are precious! Their feelings COUNT! They are not small adults! They are watching, listening and learning by everything you say AND do! You are molding them into the adults they will be! Do we really need more grown males that can’t/won’t express emotions except for happiness and anger???

I really wanted to let those women have it. I didn’t. I didn’t say anything. Maybe I should have. I don’t know….. I didn’t want to be “that person” that jumps into a thread simply to tell someone off. And I think even if I had done it in a calm manner, it would have escalated into much more….

I just can’t believe that this is still how some people think! Why should a child’s gender matter when it comes to emotions? Why shouldn’t little boys cry??? I do not understand this way of thinking and I have 3 boys!!!

Are they saying that men that cry are not really men?

I bet anything that most of them wish their husbands showed more emotions……

My heart hurts so much for these boys. I can only pray that their mothers wise up and stop treating them as if their feelings and emotions don’t count. How very, very sad. Keep children like this in your prayers, please.

 

Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

1There is a time for everything,

and a season for every activity under heaven:

2a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

4a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain,

6a time to search and a time to give up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

 

A Bit of a Medical Rant and McCall’s M4769


Soooo…. It’s been an awful weekend. Earlier in the week my oldest, j1 was sick. That led to c1 getting sick…. Now The Hubby, d and c2 are all sick!! c2 is my baby, my little fella and he’s the worst. Last night around midnight his fever spiked to 104. That’s go time! Off to the ER we went. When we pull into the parking lot we actually found a space by the ER which has always meant they weren’t busy and we should be in and out. When he gets called back to triage the children’s ibuprofen that I had given him before we left had already started working and his fever was down. The nurse asks me if we still want to see a doctor. Well, DUH!!! He had a fever for a REASON! Sure, it’s probably viral but it’s always better to be safe than sorry. So, we get sent back out to the waiting room (such an apt name!!) where we wait and wait and wait. Then c2 starts throwing up EVERYWHERE (BTW, I STILL had on the toothpaste/grape jelly shirt) including all over himself and me. Yep, now puke has been added to shirt. It takes forever but we finally get someone to help us clean him up and the surrounding area. They give him a gown and a blanket and we settle in to wait EVEN LONGER. We finally get called back to room where we….. WAIT some more. We were there for over 3 hrs and never saw a doctor. Every time I asked the nurse when she thought one might pop up she would say, “She is still with another patient that is sort of sick.” The 2nd time she said that I said, “Well, my 5 yr old son is also ‘”sort of sick”‘. He had 104 fever and was throwing up all over the waiting area.” I finally got fed up and we left. By that time it was close to 3:30am. I got him home and made him as comfy as I could. He had another fever this morning but the ibuprofen did its job so we will just watch and see.

I am really upset at the service we got at the ER. It was just ridiculous. At one point I heard a doctor (I guess it COULD have been a nurse, but I don’t think so) out in the hall just carrying on a long conversation with a bunch of other people. At the end of the conversation she says to someone, “Well, I need to go make my rounds. Hey, have you ever seen a snake bite? Well, come on and check it out!” Seriously??? OMGosh! Like she was all excited!

I really look up to nurses most of the time. I know they have a tough job. And most of the time we seem to deal with good doctors… But this was just NOT acceptable in my book. They are providing health SERVICES that we PAY for! Why should we be treated like we don’t matter? This is the 2nd time we have been treated this way at this particular ER….. The last time it was me with chest pains and we were there for 4 1/2 hours with only 15 mins of that being the actual doctor exam. I guess from now on we will be driving the extra 15/20 mins into the city if we think we can wait.

SHEW!! My goodness! J2 and I are taking bets as to which of will come down with it next.

In better news (LOL) I started cutting the fabric for this today!

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Here are my pretty buttons!

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I should get all the pieces cut today and will hopefully get started on the sewing!! YAY!! :))

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